#Beingaleader means you need to become comfortable with saying "No". It can be very freeing. Not being led down a path you don't want to go. Not being forced to spend time on things that you aren't meant to do. Sometimes the smallest things bring the biggest impact. "No" is a small but powerful word. … Continue reading No
Category: Decision Making
Unnoticed
#Beingaleader means you often have to do things unnoticed. This may seem contrary to your concept of leadership which is often portrayed as being upfront. In the center of attention. Noticed. That's the overall, outsider perception. And if that's what you're seeking then you need to rethink what leadership is. It's like looking at the … Continue reading Unnoticed
Sacrifice
#Beingaleader means you need to understand and practice sacrifice. In order to begin to understand what sacrifice is you need to only look back 78 years to those brave young men storming the beaches of Normandy. Scared out of their minds but doing their assigned jobs anyway. Fearful but fearless all in one. Not perfect. … Continue reading Sacrifice
Contradictory
#Beingaleader means you have to deal with contradictory information. Should you make decisions quickly (https://beingaleader.blog/2022/05/10/quick/)? Or slowly (https://beingaleader.blog/2022/05/17/slow/)? Well, it depends. If it was only one answer than leadership wouldn't be hard. But leadership is hard. And it means you have to deal with these contradictions. You are constantly being pulled in different directions. The … Continue reading Contradictory
Slow
#Beingaleader means you have to be slow. Deliberate thinker. Deliberate analysis. Slow decision maker. Oftentimes you just can't afford not to take the time to step back and wait. Deliberation gets you to the finish line without unnecessary losses. Slow and deliberate gets you to the win. A deliberate thinker looks at all the factors … Continue reading Slow
Quick
#Beingaleader means you have to be quick. Quick thinker. Quick analysis. Quick decision maker. Oftentimes you just don't have time to step back and wait. Speed gets you to the finish line. Quickness gets you to the win. A quick thinker is the one who sees the various possibilities before others. You look at a … Continue reading Quick
Books
#Beingaleader means you need to read/listen to books. Old ones. New ones. Different topics and subject matter. Old books. Why are old books important to read? Because culture changes. Viewpoints change. And it's important to see how people did things in the past. How they thought. How they responded. There is a lot of stability … Continue reading Books
Alone
#Beingaleader means you often have to stand alone. At least at first. Your job is often to inspire others to join you but it presupposes that you are alone at the beginning. The idea is yours. The stance is yours. The product or service is yours. Alone. Are you willing to stand alone? To press … Continue reading Alone
Problem Solver
#Beingaleader means you have to be a problem solver. It can be personnel issues. HR issues. Cost issues. Satisfaction issues from internal or external sources. All of these will eventually land on your desk at some point as a leader. And what are you expected to do with these problems? Solve them. Everyone has them. … Continue reading Problem Solver
Building
#Beingaleader means you need to always be building. Building on the past. Building for the future. Building on what you have to work with. Skills. People. Experiences. Continuing to grow your building blocks. Building on your past includes all of the things you've experienced this past year: the good and the bad. The easy and … Continue reading Building
Joy
#Beingaleader means you need to have joy. Joy in what you do. Joy in who you do it with. Joy about the future and the impact you are having. Many people when they see or hear the word "joy" equate it to happiness. The problem is that happiness is an emotion based upon the circumstances … Continue reading Joy
Hope
#Beingaleader means you need to have hope. Hope for yourself. Hope for your team. Hope for the future. Not hope in. Hope for. Hope is placed on something or someone outside of yourself and your circumstance that you can know is going to change everything. Hope is more than being positive about life or the … Continue reading Hope
Vision
#Beingaleader means you already have vision. The ability to see what's going on now. The ability to see and think about what could be in the future. And, often, even the steps and the people needed to get there. But it's much more than that. #Beingaleader also means you need to be able to communicate … Continue reading Vision
Spending
#Beingaleader means you need to understand the importance of spending. Specifically, money. Spending to make things happen that need to happen. Spending to procure the right talent. Spending to make progress on your project. Too many leaders are spendthrifts and therefore not wise with money. Read that again. How can it be wrong to save … Continue reading Spending
Team
#Beingaleader means you have a team. Not just followers. A team. I did a quick search of my previous blogs and found that I have mentioned "team" over 20 times and "followers" only 3 times. That's one indication that shows the importance of team. But I haven't specifically talked about having a team and why … Continue reading Team
Baggage
#Beingaleader means you have to deal with baggage. Sometimes your own. Sometimes others'. Either way you need to know how to deal with it or get rid of it before it drags you down. What does your baggage look like? Is it emotional? Bad experiences? Each one of us is a compilation of experiences, good … Continue reading Baggage
Independent
#Beingaleader means you have to think independently. It means you have to come up with solutions and ideas based upon your experience and calculated risk level that perhaps others are unable or unwilling to think about. Everything you go through as a leader is preparing you for the future decisions you will have to make. … Continue reading Independent
Timing – Redux
I have dealt with issue once before https://beingaleader.blog/2019/12/03/timing/ but I have found it is a critical issue that needs re-raising. #Beingaleader means you need to understand the concept of timing. Knowing that you need to do something is not the last step in the process. You need to know when. When to move on from … Continue reading Timing – Redux
Real
#Beingaleader means you need to be real. As in "not fake". Authentic. Be yourself. Lead the way you lead. Learn principles from others but don't try to copy them with mannerisms or style. Let your personality and character shine through. Be who you were created to be. Be real. Being real will create a level … Continue reading Real
Stop
Stop #Beingaleader. Every once in a while to see what impact you are having on others or yourself. Not just to refresh. But to reflect. Am I making a difference? Am I doing what I am supposed to be doing? What I was made for?Can you imagine just going to work? Just attending church? Just … Continue reading Stop
Pause
#Beingaleader means you need to learn to pause. Pause before you respond. Pause before you react. Pause to allow all the facts to emerge. #Beingaleader means you need to learn to pause before you respond. We live in a culture that seems to require us to have an opinion. About everything. It's not just that … Continue reading Pause
Dare
#Beingaleader means you have to dare. Dare to try. Dare to dream. Dare to be you. #Beingaleader means you have to dare to try. To experiment. To do something new. Regardless of potential for success sometimes you have to just try. It's important to try new angles and new approaches to see if you're able … Continue reading Dare
New Day
#Beingaleader means you need to take opportunities for starting over. For a new day. Whether it's the beginning of a new project, the start of a new team, or the beginning of a new year. It's fresh. And full of opportunities. What's it like to start with a new canvas? A clean slate? The key … Continue reading New Day
Quickness
#Beingaleader means you need a level of quickness. Quickness of decision-making, of movement, of thought. #Beingaleader means you need to have quickness of decision-making. Life is fast. #Beingaleader only picks up the pace. You cannot afford to agonize over every decision. Analysis paralysis is a real thing. And it is incompatible with #Beingaleader. The more … Continue reading Quickness
Feelings
#Beingaleader means you should not be driven or swayed by feelings. Yours or theirs. Good or bad. Don't let them control you or take you places you do not want to go or that undermine your vision or your destination for your team. #Beingaleader means you shouldn't be driven by your feelings. You are human … Continue reading Feelings
Choices
#Beingaleader means you need to make a lot of choices. Some simple. Some monumental. But each should be done with a similar mindset and criteria. #Beingaleader means you need to make simple choices. These are the ones that seem to fill up the day. Left or right. Up or down. They are simple but they … Continue reading Choices
Remember to Lead you
#Beingaleader means you need to remember to lead you. I started out writing my blog (see https://beingaleader.blog/2019/01/08/leading-you/) on the topic of Leading you. Specifically, I touched on learning from others. You should continue to do so. But you also have to learn from you. Your past experience. Mistakes you've made. Things you got right. Keep … Continue reading Remember to Lead you
Overwhelmed
#Beingaleader means you are often overwhelmed. Sometimes you just feel it. Other times you actually are. Overwhelmed with pressure, deadlines, crises, decisions, finances, and life in general. It is important to understand that you will have times and days like that. Recognize it. Deal with it. #Beingaleader means you sometimes are overwhelmed. Schedules. Demands from … Continue reading Overwhelmed
Bold
#Beingaleader means you need to be bold. Being bold means you take risks, are confident and have courage. #Beingaleader means you take risks. Being bold requires you to see challenges as opportunities, hurdles as stepping stones and obstacles as exercise. Too many say "think outside the box". Instead, I say "blow up the box". Stop … Continue reading Bold
Discord or Discourse
#Beingaleader means you need to make a decision whether you will participate in discord or discourse. Too many leaders make the wrong decision. As a result, they use their influence to sow discord rather than encourage civil discourse. By discord, I mean creating an environment where opinion becomes fact and one's opinion is greater or … Continue reading Discord or Discourse
Impact
#Beingaleader means you have impact. Known and unknown. Close and far reaching. Generational. To me it's sad that we often only hear of the impact someone had on another person's life at the funeral of the first person. Regardless, the impact was there. The person might not have even known that they had that impact … Continue reading Impact
For Such a Time
#Beingaleader means you are in a leadership position for such a time as this. Are you prepared to handle the moment? This is the moment to rise up. To give direction. To lead. To figure out things that others cannot or will not figure out. To move into action while others are paralyzed. You have … Continue reading For Such a Time
Failure
#Beingaleader means you will fail. At some point in time. Likely at many points. It's just part of the journey you've been called to as a leader. Sometimes it's an actual failure. Sometimes it just feels like a failure. Either one can be devastating to you, to others or to the project. And it's unavoidable. … Continue reading Failure
Continued Trust
#Beingaleader means you need to have the trust of your people. I have written about this before. See https://wordpress.com/block-editor/post/beingaleader.blog/133. However, it bears repeating in a time of crisis. Whether national, business or family. So many decisions that are made are either followed or scorned based upon the level of trust someone has in their leadership. … Continue reading Continued Trust
Completion
#Beingaleader means you are trying to accomplish a goal. To complete a task. But there are some things bigger than that. Bigger questions to ask. What does completion of your life look like to you? What will you have accomplished? What do you want others to feel at the end? This is in fact the … Continue reading Completion
Juggling
#Beingaleader means you have to juggle. A lot. Whether you are a parent, a coach, or a CEO, you have a lot to juggle. At one time. With competing priorities and timelines. Pressures from many different corners whether your boss, a project deadline or a screaming infant. Everyone thinks their stuff is the most important … Continue reading Juggling
Hurry
#Beingaleader means you are sometimes in a hurry. Maybe most of the time. Hurry to get somewhere. Hurry to accomplish something. Hurry to make a decision. Deal with an employee. Finish a task. The speed of life can overtake you. This is not an article about slowing down your life. But you still need to … Continue reading Hurry
New Day
#Beingaleader means you need to look at things with fresh eyes. A clean slate. Like it's a new day. The canvas of a new decade is before us. What do you see? Challenges? Victories? Sadness? Joy? How do you want to spend the next 10 years of your life? What do you want to look … Continue reading New Day
Timing
#Beingaleader means you need to understand something about timing. When is it best to start? To finish? To change course? To change personnel? How about location? All of these changes might be the right decision but if the timing is off your project or great idea might fail as a result. While God is never … Continue reading Timing
Manners
Parenting is #beingaleader. In that leadership role, it is your responsibility to teach your child(ren) manners. I am not simply talking about not speaking when your mouth is full of food (although that can be an issue too and clearly many adults were not taught that). I am defining manners as someone "having respect" - … Continue reading Manners
Can-Do
#Beingaleader means you have a can-do attitude. The dictionary defines this as "being positive about your ability to achieve success." Positivity and confidence in your ability to achieve a goal or complete a task go a long way to making that a reality in your circumstance. Last time we talked about Belief Breakthrough (https://beingaleader.blog/2019/09/10/belief-breakthrough/) and … Continue reading Can-Do
Belief Breakthrough
Belief breakthrough is crucial to #beingaleader. I am defining belief breakthrough as identifying and changing those things you believe about yourself or your situation that keep you from achieving what you want to achieve. You must constantly be challenging and re-evaluating the beliefs you have in order to make steps towards your goal. #Beingaleader means … Continue reading Belief Breakthrough
Think
Are you a doer or a thinker? That's an interesting question to me. One that needs to be pondered more often than it is. While we all would like to answer "both", I believe that most of us are doers by nature and thinkers only by learned discipline. We like to "accomplish" things and not … Continue reading Think
Focus
#Beingaleader means you need to focus. Not just on the end prize of a project or task completion but on the specific step in front of you. Studies have shown over and over that we are not really as good as we think at multi-tasking. If we are trying to accomplish a task, it is … Continue reading Focus
Delegate
#Beingaleader means you have to learn to delegate. Your job includes finding the right person with the right skill set(s) to achieve what needs to be done. You often don't have the time nor the right skill set(s) to get the job done yourself. You need others. Your job is to identify them and delegate … Continue reading Delegate
Different Than Me
#Beingaleader means you need people around you that are different than you are. Different in perspective. Different in style. Different in skill set. Different temperament. We hear a lot about diversity and inclusion. In the marketplace. In church. In politics. In society at large. This is not a post about racial or gender diversity specifically … Continue reading Different Than Me
Keep Going
#Beingaleader means you get tired. Keep going. I've touched on this topic before but it's forefront in my mind. My month has been full of funerals/memorial services. Sometimes you just get tired of it all and want to quit. Is it really worth it? Keep going. Press through. The darkness will dissipate. God's mercies are … Continue reading Keep Going
Stress
#Beingaleader means you live in a world of stress (defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.) Changing circumstances. Pace of life. Unforeseen issues. Volume of issues. Loudness of the questions. All of these can lead to stress. How you handle it will show how … Continue reading Stress
Lead Something
#Beingaleader means you lead. Something. All the time. Small. Big. It doesn't really matter. You hone your skill in the doing. There is no substitute for this action. Reading and listening to the advice of others are important and good and can give you examples of how you should do things. But you learn more … Continue reading Lead Something
You’re Fired
#Beingaleader means that sometimes you have to let people go from your team. It's not fun. It's not easy. But it's sometimes necessary. There are plenty of euphemisms for this: reduction in force; it's just not working; we're going in another direction; etc. Lots has been written about being on the receiving end of such … Continue reading You’re Fired