#Beingaleader means you often have to do things unnoticed. This may seem contrary to your concept of leadership which is often portrayed as being upfront. In the center of attention. Noticed. That's the overall, outsider perception. And if that's what you're seeking then you need to rethink what leadership is. It's like looking at the … Continue reading Unnoticed
Category: Self-Leadership
Sacrifice
#Beingaleader means you need to understand and practice sacrifice. In order to begin to understand what sacrifice is you need to only look back 78 years to those brave young men storming the beaches of Normandy. Scared out of their minds but doing their assigned jobs anyway. Fearful but fearless all in one. Not perfect. … Continue reading Sacrifice
Honesty
#Beingaleader means you need to lead with honesty. Honesty can be defined as having fairness and frankness. Fairness is the way we want to be treated and frankness is when you are clear in your communication. Honesty means you need to be fair. Fair to your team. Fair to your clients. Fair to yourself. To … Continue reading Honesty
Slow
#Beingaleader means you have to be slow. Deliberate thinker. Deliberate analysis. Slow decision maker. Oftentimes you just can't afford not to take the time to step back and wait. Deliberation gets you to the finish line without unnecessary losses. Slow and deliberate gets you to the win. A deliberate thinker looks at all the factors … Continue reading Slow
Success
#Beingaleader means you need to understand how you define success. Not how success is defined. But how you define success. The dictionary already defines it as the accomplishment of your or your team's purpose. But that might not be success to you. Or it might not be all you define as success. Success could be … Continue reading Success
Flow
#Beingaleader sometimes means you have to go with the flow. Meaning you can't plan for everything. Every contingency. Sometimes things just happen to you and you need to go with it. Try to guide it to a successful conclusion but realize that you don't control everything. How easy you can go with the flow will … Continue reading Flow
Prepared
#Beingaleader means you need to be prepared. Or get prepared. For as many eventualities as is possible. Personally. Professionally. Your team. Your family. Yourself. What are some eventualities that you might encounter? And they can change depending on the year. But they might include: team member loss; sales loss; conflict resolution; personal loss; health issues; … Continue reading Prepared
Books
#Beingaleader means you need to read/listen to books. Old ones. New ones. Different topics and subject matter. Old books. Why are old books important to read? Because culture changes. Viewpoints change. And it's important to see how people did things in the past. How they thought. How they responded. There is a lot of stability … Continue reading Books
Resilience
#Beingaleader means you need to have resilience. The ability to recover quickly from difficulty. To bounce back. To have more toughness than others have. Face trauma, stress and even tragedy without it breaking you. Seeing it all in context. Resilience requires inner strength. I'm not saying that everyone doesn't have their limits. Nor am I … Continue reading Resilience
The Point
#Beingaleader means you have to get to the point. Be direct. Say what you mean. Your expectations. Your evaluation of them or their progress. Clearly. Concisely. Using examples when needed but not telling a story without getting to the punchline. You are not helping others by beating around the bush. It is not kindness to … Continue reading The Point
Refresh
#Beingaleader means you need to take time to refresh every so often. To recharge. To take stock. To give yourself new strength or to invigorate yourself for the next tasks or phase of life that are ahead of you. To do whatever it takes to prevent burnout and disillusionment. A sabbatical. A vacation. A weekend … Continue reading Refresh
Decision-Making
#Beingaleader means you need to have a good decision-making paradigm. How do you make decisions? What's the criteria you look at? Granted, many decisions you make during the day may not be extremely significant. They might just be decisions that need to be made in order to keep the project going. Oftentimes, people are paralyzed … Continue reading Decision-Making
Alone
#Beingaleader means you often have to stand alone. At least at first. Your job is often to inspire others to join you but it presupposes that you are alone at the beginning. The idea is yours. The stance is yours. The product or service is yours. Alone. Are you willing to stand alone? To press … Continue reading Alone
Balance
#Beingaleader means you need to find balance. In your work. In your family. In your life. We each have so many different things pulling at us, our time, our thoughts, our energy. Balance can be defined as an even distribution of weight or having something in equal proportions. However, I think you can be balanced … Continue reading Balance
Tools
#Beingaleader means you need to learn to use tools. Technical tools. Software. Messaging. Keyboards. Calendars. The things that help make keeping you organized a possibility. Now, many of the younger generation don't even think twice about this. They likely don't even know what life would be like without those tools. They are ingrained into their … Continue reading Tools
Conflict
#Beingaleader means you have to deal with conflict. Sooner or later. And perhaps often. Disagreement. Clashing. Differences of opinion or desired direction. You don't have to go looking for it. It will find you. The question is how will you treat it? How will you react or respond? Let me break it up into two … Continue reading Conflict
Persistence
#Beingaleader means you need persistence. Persistence is defined as the obstinate continuation in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition. That's an interesting combination of words. Persistence and obstinate in the same sentence. Obstinate can be a stubbornness on the part of a leader to not change course even in the face … Continue reading Persistence
Problem Solver
#Beingaleader means you have to be a problem solver. It can be personnel issues. HR issues. Cost issues. Satisfaction issues from internal or external sources. All of these will eventually land on your desk at some point as a leader. And what are you expected to do with these problems? Solve them. Everyone has them. … Continue reading Problem Solver
Building
#Beingaleader means you need to always be building. Building on the past. Building for the future. Building on what you have to work with. Skills. People. Experiences. Continuing to grow your building blocks. Building on your past includes all of the things you've experienced this past year: the good and the bad. The easy and … Continue reading Building
Peace
#Beingaleader means you need to choose peace. Note that I didn't say 'have a peaceful circumstance'. Peace is less about the circumstances you find yourself in. But rather, peace is a state of mind. A place of being. The place you should want to live your real life. Less about the absence of conflict and … Continue reading Peace
Joy
#Beingaleader means you need to have joy. Joy in what you do. Joy in who you do it with. Joy about the future and the impact you are having. Many people when they see or hear the word "joy" equate it to happiness. The problem is that happiness is an emotion based upon the circumstances … Continue reading Joy
Love
#Beingaleader means you need to love. What you do. Who you do it with. The goals you are trying to reach. It is outward focused. I have previously written on "Love" but from a parenting perspective towards your family https://beingaleader.blog/2019/06/04/its-love-stupid/. However, today the focus is on those you work with. Today is the 80th Anniversary … Continue reading Love
Hope
#Beingaleader means you need to have hope. Hope for yourself. Hope for your team. Hope for the future. Not hope in. Hope for. Hope is placed on something or someone outside of yourself and your circumstance that you can know is going to change everything. Hope is more than being positive about life or the … Continue reading Hope
Thankful
#Beingaleader means you need to be thankful. Thankful for others. Thankful for your team's successes. Thankful for the things that brought you to where you are today. Even the hard things. And train others to do the same. Being thankful is being "conscious of benefits received." So the most important step is to be conscious … Continue reading Thankful
Steady
#Beingaleader means you need to be a steady leader. A steady person. Steady means you are consistent but it is more than just consistent. Steady means you are a rock during a tempest. Steady means you will always be there. That you don't run from a fight. That while others go up and down with … Continue reading Steady
Patience
#Beingaleader means you have to exhibit patience. Patience is defined as more than waiting (https://beingaleader.blog/2021/02/02/waiting/). Patience is more what you do with the waiting. It is defined as 'the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.' So, while many people might be okay with waiting, they aren't very … Continue reading Patience
Seasons
#Beingaleader means you need to understand the seasons. Seasons in your leadership. Start up energy. Sustainment. Longevity. Expertise. Training others. Passing it along to others. There are many different seasons in your leadership life. Sometimes you repeat seasons (new adventures etc.) But over the long haul of your leadership life you move from that energetic … Continue reading Seasons
Vision
#Beingaleader means you already have vision. The ability to see what's going on now. The ability to see and think about what could be in the future. And, often, even the steps and the people needed to get there. But it's much more than that. #Beingaleader also means you need to be able to communicate … Continue reading Vision
“Good” Leader
#Beingaleader means you should want to be a "good" leader. But how is "good" defined and how do you achieve it? So and so is a "good" leader. What do you mean by that? Is it their character? Personality? How they treat others? Skill set? Compassion? Attitude? Yes to all. Someone can be an effective … Continue reading “Good” Leader
Power
Whether you like it or not, #Beingaleader means you wield some power. From your position. From your followers. From your experience. Even from your presence. How you use that power will determine what kind of leader you will be and how worthy you are of those followers. Power is an interesting thing. There is an … Continue reading Power
Goodbyes
#Beingaleader means your life can be full of goodbyes. To people. To projects. Nothing seems to last forever. This week was full of goodbyes. A belated goodbye to a father who's life we could not previously celebrate together as a family due to borders being closed. A goodbye to a mother who we might never … Continue reading Goodbyes
Frustration
#Beingaleader means you can feel a lot of frustration. At yourself. At others. At circumstances. At the inability to do things better or change an outcome. It's just frustrating how some people act or don't learn or don't care. Frustration. So how do you deal with frustration? Do you let it consume you? Do you … Continue reading Frustration
Sustainability
#Beingaleader means you need to have sustainability. Sustainable is avoiding depletion. For the long haul. Regenerating. Healthy. We often hear the term used in reference to the environment or a particular product that is being touted. But sustainability is important for the leader too. You must prepare for the long haul. The adversity. The challenges. … Continue reading Sustainability
Satisfied
#Beingaleader means you have times where you are satisfied. Where you are at. Where the team is at. With life. Satisfied. Yes it's important to keep striving. Yes it's important to keep pushing. But if you never stop and let yourself be satisfied with where you're currently at, then what are you pursuing? Is it … Continue reading Satisfied
Baggage
#Beingaleader means you have to deal with baggage. Sometimes your own. Sometimes others'. Either way you need to know how to deal with it or get rid of it before it drags you down. What does your baggage look like? Is it emotional? Bad experiences? Each one of us is a compilation of experiences, good … Continue reading Baggage
Title
#Beingaleader does not mean you will always have a title. Nor should you think that having such a title means that you are a leader. Nor should it be your goal. A title is bestowed. Leadership is learned and earned. Being named CEO doesn't make you a leader. Nor does Group Leader, Doctor, Colonel, Pastor, … Continue reading Title
Generous
#Beingaleader means you need to be generous. With your time. With your money. With your praise. So what does being generous with your time mean? It means giving of yourself whenever possible to help others achieve their goals or the goals of the team. It means you show up when the team shows up. It … Continue reading Generous
Fun?
Can #Beingaleader be fun? Can it give you energy and not just take it? Can it be what gives you life and not just have it take it from you on a regular basis? Can it give you pleasure? A sense of satisfaction? Something that propels you forward in a positive manner? We talk a … Continue reading Fun?
Re-Think
#Beingaleader means you have to re-think things all the time. Look at situations from new angles. Allow your mind to imagine things that aren't there yet. Re-imagine. Re-tool. Be careful about getting stuck in the 'right' way of thinking (i.e., your way). Allow yourself time and space to re-think things. This takes time set aside … Continue reading Re-Think
Bully
#Beingaleader means you are not a bully. You cannot be a bully and still be a true leader. A bully is defined as someone who uses fear and intimidation to get their way. Whether through shouting or threats or other forms. I'm less interested in whether you've experienced this (I have) but rather whether you … Continue reading Bully
Healthy
#Beingaleader means you need to stay healthy. In your mindset. In your relationships. And in your environment. #Beingaleader means you need to stay healthy in your mindset. Your attitude or mindset is so critically important that you must protect it from anything that would try to get you down. The keys to being successful in … Continue reading Healthy
Juggling
#Beingaleader means you have to juggle. Spin a lot of plates. Multi-task. The key is to keep your focus while all around you is spinning furiously. Whether parenting or running a business or leading a project. You are seemingly never able to focus on just one thing at a time. How do you maintain you … Continue reading Juggling
Confidence
#Beingaleader means you need confidence. In yourself. In your team. In the future. Confidence in your abilities. Your decision making. #Beingaleader means you need to teach yourself to be confident in who you are and what abilities you have learned and are learning. Confidence. Not arrogance. It's not about other people or a comparison to … Continue reading Confidence
Real
#Beingaleader means you need to be real. As in "not fake". Authentic. Be yourself. Lead the way you lead. Learn principles from others but don't try to copy them with mannerisms or style. Let your personality and character shine through. Be who you were created to be. Be real. Being real will create a level … Continue reading Real
Compliment
#Beingaleader means you need to learn to compliment others. Compliments that focus on success. Compliments that are frequent. And ones that are done intentionally. #Beingaleader means that your compliments should focus on success. The success of your team member or your child. Everyone seems to receive an abundance of negative feedback whether intentional or unintentional. … Continue reading Compliment
Boundaries
#Beingaleader means you need to have boundaries. Boundaries from one area of your life to another. Something that separates out your mind, your energy and/or your time from one activity to another. Something that separates work from family, recreation from projects etc. In the area of work, this has proven to be the hardest thing … Continue reading Boundaries
Friends
One of the downsides to #Beingaleader can be the feeling that you cannot have real friends. We have colleagues. We have followers. But not many friends. Oftentimes, leaders shy away from having friends for some reason or another but it is to their disadvantage to do so. In fact, you need friends more than anyone … Continue reading Friends
Motivate
#Beingaleader means you have to motivate yourself. Again and again. To do the things that need to be done. To do the things you may not want to do. To set yourself on the path to success. There is no easy success. And often it is not flashy. Sort of like raising a child. It's … Continue reading Motivate
Virtual
#Beingaleader in today's world means you have to lead virtually. Zoom. Email. Focused on the task but also building the culture you want. In the cloud. "Seeing" them but not really. Working on the tone of your emails to stop or at least not start, misunderstandings. #Beingaleader means you have to learn to lead virtually. … Continue reading Virtual
Stop
Stop #Beingaleader. Every once in a while to see what impact you are having on others or yourself. Not just to refresh. But to reflect. Am I making a difference? Am I doing what I am supposed to be doing? What I was made for?Can you imagine just going to work? Just attending church? Just … Continue reading Stop